Is Your Family Making You Fat?

Jenny Craig’s chief nutritionist Lisa Talamini shares how to keep your home life from wrecking your waistline

Problem: You're always finishing the kids' leftovers. "We're all taught not to waste — eating your kids' leftovers is an unconscious variation of the 'clean-plate syndrome,' " says Talamini. "The problem is, you end up consuming a couple hundred calories of food without feeling like you've even tasted the food or had a real meal."

Solution: “Have a designated eating place,” says Talamini. "Making a rule that you’ll eat only when you’re seated at the dining-room table will help you avoid snacking over the kitchen sink."

Another Strategy: Get your kids involved in your weight-loss efforts. Give them smaller portions and teach them to eat only until they are no longer hungry. (The goal: no more table scraps to tempt you.)Another strategy:Try chewing gum while you’re preparing meals and cleaning up. It's a great trick for keeping food out of your mouth!

Problem: You've picked up your husband's bad eating habits. "Eating is such a social event, and we get so wrapped up in sharing the meal, that we sometimes forget that our husband's nutritional requirements are very different from our own," says Talamini. "Men are bigger, and they need more calories."

Solution: Serve him healthy food, too. If you're giving him the same big salads that you're eating and loading both of your plates with fruits and veggies, then you're automatically going to lower your calorie consumption — even if you sometimes eat man-size portions.

Another Strategy: Make it clear to your husband that you need his support. "If your husband always eats ice cream in front of you, say, 'I know you love ice cream, but it's easier for me right now if I'm not exposed to it. Can you have it when I’m not around?' " suggests Talamini. This shows that you recognize that he has the right to eat what he enjoys, but you need him to respect your new healthy-eating plan.

Another Strategy: Join him — but give his favorite treat a healthy makeover. If you stock up on fat-free frozen yogurt in a flavor you both love, you can dig in together.

Problem: Eating out with the gang makes it tough to be healthy. "Lots of moms find it hard to stick to their diet when they’re on the go because ‘kid-friendly’ often translates to 'diet disaster,' " says Talamini. “But with more fast-food chains and sit-down family restaurants offering healthier options, you can find nutritious items.”

Solution: Plan ahead so you don’t inadvertently choose the most fattening thing on the menu. "Check out the restaurant’s menu on its Web site ahead of time, and make your selection based on nutritional info," suggests Talamini.

Another Strategy: Ask lots of questions. "Find out how the dish is prepared and look for red flags in the menu's language — such as 'meat lover's' and 'supreme' — that are code words for large portion sizes and extra fat," she says.Another strategy: Always start with a big salad. "Not only will you eat less later in the meal, but you'll also feel more satisfied — and not like you're on a diet!" Talamini notes.

Another Strategy: Be vigilant about portion sizes. "A lot of times, people think they're making a smart choice by ordering the salmon entrée — but the serving can be supersized and then you're eating an entire side of fish," she says. "It should be the size of a deck of cards."

Problem: You're too busy taking care of everyone else to find time for the gym. "This is the number-one excuse I hear from most women. They have such packed schedules that they feel guilty about spending time solo working out," says Talamini.

Solution: Build an active lifestyle instead of trying to "fit in" exercise. Combine natural activity (things that are already a part of your day, like walking the dog), playful activity (fun things that you do with other people, such as playing with your kids) and planned activity (traditional exercise — jogging, yoga, etc.), advises Talamini.

Another Strategy: Break up the recommended 30-minute-a-day minimum workout into smaller, more manageable chunks. "Sneak in a 10-minute walk when you get up in the morning, during your lunch break at work and right after dinner each evening — and you've done your daily exercise!"

Another Strategy: Keep track of your good work. "Wear a pedometer," she says. "It's an awareness builder: Just seeing the number of steps you've taken will motivate you to walk across the hall at work, say, rather than writing an e-mail."

Another Strategy: Don't look at staying fit as something that has to take you away from your family. "Combine physical activity with family quality time," suggests Talamini. "Don't go to a movie. Instead, take a walk or a bike ride with your kids. You'll burn calories while providing them with a positive role model!"

Problem: Your man always discourages your weight-loss efforts. Keep in mind that it's often hard for loved ones when your appearance and behavior change. "It can be threatening because he might assume that you’re asking him to get fit, too," explains Talamini.

Solution: Give him a role in your makeover. "Let your husband know how important losing weight is to you," advises Talamini. Then ask if you can count on him to play a key part in your efforts to shape up. Once he realizes how much you value his help, he'll be more likely to offer support — from praising your progress to watching the kids while you work out.

Another Strategy: Lead quietly by setting a good example. "Positive change tends to be catching," she says. "If he's being difficult, let him know that you'd love for him to join your healthy-eating efforts, but you understand that everyone makes change in his own time." Then remind yourself that even if he doesn't follow suit, he'll still come out a winner. "The healthier you get, the more you bring to your relationships with your husband and kids," she points out. "Everyone in your family benefits!"

Stop These Sleep-Stealers!


Craving a good night's sleep? Don't let these common culprits wreck your rest

Stealer: Your low-calorie diet

Solution: "If you've severely restricted your caloric intake, you may be hungry during the night, which can wake you up," explains sleep specialist Anne Remmes, M.D., a neurologist at Columbia University Headache Center in New York City. Another problem with extreme dieting: Over-the-counter (or prescription) diet pills often contain caffeine, which can cause insomnia.

So can you stick to your diet and get your rest? Yes, with planning, says Dr. Remmes. "Be sure you have protein every three to four hours throughout the day, and particularly about three hours before bedtime," she advises. Protein-packed foods, such as cheese or peanut butter, help keep your blood-sugar level stable and leave you feeling satisfied longer, she adds. If you're eating a reasonable diet and still waking up hungry at 3 a.m., talk to your doctor.

Stealer: Your stress levels (through the roof!)

Solution: Difficulty sleeping is one of the most common signs of stress. Ironically, seriously stressed-out women need the restorative power of sleep the most. And lack of sleep can make you even more tense and anxious. But there are some easy ways to beat this vicious circle. "Establish a strict bedtime routine, going to bed at the same time every night and arising at the same time every morning," says Dr. Remmes.

So if you need to get up at 7:30 a.m. during the week, keep that as your wake-up time on weekends. About 90 minutes before bedtime, start unwinding (put on your pajamas, brush your teeth, turn off your cell phone and computer) and read something mindless or listen to music for an hour while sitting in a chair. Get into bed at your designated bedtime and turn off all the lights. Never watch TV in bed, and position your clocks so you can't even see them from your pillow.

If this bedtime routine doesn't do the trick, there are other options: Aerobic exercise in the afternoon clears the body of stress hormones; a warm bath an hour before bed makes your body temperature fall, which induces sleep; and light stretching will help relax your muscles before you get into bed.

Stealer: Your growing family

Solution: "New moms have a predisposition to fragile sleep that's heightened by shifts in estrogen levels in the months after delivery," explains Dr. Remmes. "If you've got a newborn, one way to sneak in a little extra sleep is to take a nap whenever the baby does."

Also, try gradually decreasing your child's daytime feedings: Babies who eat more frequently during the day will want to be on the same schedule at night. "If your child is sleeping well, and you're still not getting good rest, it might be caused by the disorganized sleep-wake cycle that often follows pregnancy," she says. Your body might be so conditioned to getting up several times a night that you're temporarily incapable of sleeping straight through. But it shouldn't be too hard to get your internal clock back on track: Try reading a book before bedtime, going to bed and rising at the same time every day, and spending time outside in the morning light.

Stealer: Your night-owl ways

Solution: Carving out "me time" after everyone else goes to bed sounds smart, but it�s not a good long-term plan. "Taking alone time late at night and depriving yourself of sleep is only stealing from yourself," insists Dr. Remmes. "If you are chronically sleep-deprived -- not getting roughly seven to nine hours most nights -- you will not function at your best."

If you like to stay up late to get some good relaxation time in, be prepared to accept the consequences: decreased mental performance, crankiness and sleepiness. "It would be better to get to bed at a normal hour and schedule time to decompress during the day -- even first thing in the morning," she says. If you must stay up late, try designating one night a week as your early-bedtime night, so you can partially make up for your sleep deficit. Also, for women who don't suffer from insomnia, taking a 20- to 30-minute midafternoon nap on the weekends can really revive you.

Stealer: Your husband

Solution: If your man thrashes in bed or snores loudly, "it would be wise to send him to a sleep center to be evaluated, because both nighttime thrashing and snoring can suggest a sleep disorder," says Dr. Remmes. (Both are fairly common: Thrashing can be caused by Restless Legs Syndrome -- RLS -- a neurological disorder that affects as many as 12 million Americans, and snoring is often linked to sleep apnea, which affects an estimated 18 million.)

Treatment for RLS may include iron or vitamin supplements, lifestyle changes and prescription medications. In some cases, sleep apnea might require a surgical procedure, so it's important that he see a doctor. In the meantime, consider investing in a good mattress that doesn't transmit movement (so his tossing and turning won't rock you) and some earplugs or a white-noise machine!